“It’s not polite to ask directly, so Smith advises brides to give a spreadsheet with an estimated cost of expenses to their bridesmaids.”
Um. Wow. Maybe I’m crazy, but isn’t this EXTREMELY TACKY?
When you are in a wedding you know what to expect for the most part! C’mon you can figure it out—dress/shoes/hair/makeup/shower/showergift/bachelorette/weddinggift/travelexpenses.
God…when I write it like that it looks so, so, so expensive. But I think of it as a great honor to be involved and a gift to the people I love.
He Who Makes Me Smile and I have been talking about getting married and planning a wedding weekend etc…etc…etc…and when the subject of Bridesmaids/Groomsmen comes up—well I just can’t even begin to imagine where I would begin!
I’ve been blessed and honored to be the Maid of Honor for my Brother/Sister-in-Law, My Mary and Rob and my Cousins Brenda/Lori. I was the “wedding hostess” for Erin’s big day and well, in a few other weddings as a bridesmaid/and or she who plans fun parties and does readings.
I just can’t imagine asking the 12-(27) people closest to me to stand around in matching $200 dresses. And how could I choose just a few? I’m not sure what I will end up doing someday, although I have a good idea…but I know one thing, I will NEVER ask someone to be in a wedding and give them a spreadsheet of what I want them to spend. Holy good grief!
Friends, be thankful—I’ll be saving you HUNDREDS of dollars someday! (I sound like a car insurance commercial!)