Ah, this one is easy. I joke around that part of what I do for a living is hold a martini in one hand and talk to donors. Pretty easy, right? Well not for some. These things come naturally to me being the extrovert, social, intelligent, quick-witted, adorable, charming person that I am, I find that tis hardly *work* at all.
But how do YOU dear reader and friend manage to chat away and make small talk if you are not nearly as wonderful as I? I mean as naturally gifted as I? (Ahem, note the sarcasm please and thank you.)
First, I highly recommend the martini. Just for good measure.
But since I’m not drinking martinis while at work on the phone, I offer you this tiny tiny easy to remember bit of advice.
There’s nothing in the world worse that trying to be someone you aren’t. If you aren’t freaking funny, don’t pretend to be. If you are uncomfortable talking about the issues of the day, don’t pretend you know what bastards AIG turned out to be. Don’t even promise or answer something you don’t know the answer to…find someone else who knows and then give the answer back. It’s not rocket science people, just be comfortable with who you are and the rest will follow.
Now that I think of it, the same is true for dating. My GOD is there anything more uncomfortable than someone uncomfortable with themselves?