Oh yea. Yes, indeed I am…

“Truly quirky people are the ones who don’t have the option of camouflaging their individuality: they’re just uncontrollably themselves.”

Are you a quirkyalone? Take this quiz!

I scored frightfully high

Your score was 108. Very quirkyalone: Relatives may give you quizzical looks, and so may friends, but you know in your heart of hearts that you are following your inner voice. Though you may not be romancing a single person, you are romancing the world.

ADDITIONAL DIAGNOSTIC SIGNS

I just finished reading this book. (5th of the year) First person to call out *I want it* gets it next, with the promise that you will pass on the manifesto for uncompromising romantics 🙂

And now I shall share the parts I wish to shareth with you all…

Quirkyalones Throughout History:

4,000 B.C.E. Eve Bites Apple
Kind of quirkyalone-sabotaging what everyone else would see as a perfect relationship

1855 Lucy Stone
becomes the first woman on record to keep her own name after marriage, women who follow the trend later known as “Lucy Stoners”

“To come out as a quirkyalone is to jettison those preconceived ideals in favor of the open road. It takes a certain leap of faith, to let your thoughts take you where they lead. You don’t really know how it is going to turn out. But you know that you need to draw your road map for yourself.”

“Strong friendship bonds are also often cited as influential, almost as if your first friends are your first loves. Being so fulfilled by a group of friends or a particular friend in childhood, you learn friendship as the fundamental bond.”

‘”Its a little known fact, but quirkyalones, for all their independence, also have a tendency to be swept away when they get close to love. Wa are passionate, romantic characters, and that click happens so rarely that the hunt for a partner can take on the characted of a search for a holy grail.”

“Romantic Obsession generally comes in the wake of a short-lived relationship and the rest of your life, when you are trying to uphold an illusion about the relationship and the rest of your life is not in order. The beloved is unavailable in some way. There might be a one-in-a-million connection, but reality (geographical distance, emotional unavailability, or the annoying fact of one party already begin married or involved) stubbornly intrudes.”

“Like everyone else Quirkyalones alternate between states of loneliness and solitude. One day we might be stirring spaghetti sauce for a solo supper, listening to public radio, and feeling that there could be no better companion than a review of a new novel and our reaction to it. The next night we might be doing the very same thing, but this time we feel a powerful aching need for someone else to be there. If loneliness is about lack, solitude is the opposite , a feeling of being whole, sometimes deliriously so.”

“Mary Wollstonecraft said it well in 1792 in A Vindication of the Rights of Woman: “Solitude and reflection are necessary to give wished the force of passions, and to enable the imagination to enlarge the object, and make it the most desirable.”

“There are days when solitude is a heady wine that intoxicates you with freedom, others when it is a bitter tonic, and still others when it is a poison that makes you beat your head against the wall.” Collette

“The real marriage of true minds is for any two people to possess a sense of humour or irony pitched in exactly the same key, so that their joint glances at any subject cross like interarching searchlights.” Edith Wharton, A Backwards Glance

QuirkyTOGETHERS
“At the core, quirkytogether values the idea of two fully formed human beings coming together for a partnership rather than a merging of souls-it’s not the sole mate idea of finding the other half to complete you, but about finding a lively and dynamic partnership that still allows you to fully be yourself.”

“The archetypical image of quirkytogetheeers: two people sitting on the couch reading with their feet intertwined; two solitudes that protect each other and also join together.”

“Love is the extremely difficult realization that someone other than oneself is real.” Iris Murdoch

“But a relationship should not be all work. If it is, that’s probably a bad sign. Quirkyalones are still romantics, after all.”

“One question that some single quirkyalones may ask themselves: Why is it that we often fall for people who live in other cities? Maybe it reality is because all the attractive people live elsewhere…Or to dig a little deeper, maybe it’s because we open ourselves to the possibilities of love more often when we step out of our everyday routines. Or maybe the bias towards love with people in other cities is based on fear; love has to conquer all because it could be years before we find someone else who even comes close again. Or maybe, just maybe, long distance relationships make a certain sense to us, at least at certain points in our lives, when we may want romance, sex and emotional intimacy but we’re not entirely convinces that we want someone who is always around and may occupy time and space we realistically need to reserve for ourselves.”

“I don’t think I am unusual among quirkyalones when I say that friendship has always come more naturally to me than romantic love. I may not have had romantic relationships always, but I have always had friends- best friends, intense friends, casual friends, fast friends- and felt passionately devoted to many of them.”